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By André PicardMary Liz Greene [pictured] was in the midst of an animated conversation with her son when he suddenly lunged, grabbed her by the neck with two hands, then pushed his thumbs into the soft flesh of her throat, using the full force of his 6-foot, 200-pound frame.
Gasping for air, she felt the pressure let up for an instant, shoved him with all her might and fled to a neighbouring apartment to call 911.
“I'm lucky to be alive,” Ms. Greene said later, “although sometimes I doubt that.”
Her son, 24-year-old John Candow, suffers from severe bipolar disorder and, when untreated, is consumed by the delusion that he is Tony Soprano, the TV mobster. He has been living with his mother and, since he was diagnosed three years ago, has thrown knives at her, burned her with cigarettes, punched and kicked her repeatedly.
Last week's incident was the most violent yet. When police arrived, they were confronted with a psychotic young man holding a knife to his throat threatening suicide. They tasered, subdued and arrested him – and found 10 more knives in his knapsack.
When Ms. Greene, a Halifax social worker, visited her son at the East Coast Forensic Hospital a few days later, he reminded her, matter-of-factly, that he plans to kill her and chop her body to pieces.
“When John's not sick, when he's being treated, he's very loving. He's a sweet, beautiful boy,” Ms. Greene says tearfully.
But the central fact of the sordid tale is this: Mr. Candow refuses to get treatment, as is his right under Canadian law.
That right presents a dilemma for countless caregivers across the country whose loved ones have such severe mental illnesses as schizophrenia, bipolar disorder and addictions, especially when they also suffer from anosognosia – an inability to recognize they are sick.
Photograph by Sandor Fizli for The Globe and Mail.










